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Tips For Everlasting Love Relationship

By:- R.B. Thohe Pou *



You admire some one - some one admires you; it is the universal truth on earth. It is easy to fall in love with some one but will it be easy to love him/her to your last breath? Many people happily in love but also end up with broken heart.

When you want to possess something - you work hard whole heartedly to posses it. But when you posses it - soon you seem don't have it; it is human nature - because human wants are unlimited; be it in love or any other materials things.

In order to keep everlasting love relationship or content with what you have got, you need to learn some tips. It wouldn't be easy or lucky enough to get our dream man or woman in our lives.

Even if we get our dream man or woman - our projection and wants and everything changes in time. You admire or like some one because you see something appealing or interesting on him or her.

When you are interested on somebody - you see only the positive aspects of that person. Your positive projection continue till you are in love. However when you are in love - the real problem commence, which is the beginning of testing your genuine love.

Love is not like something that comes to exist and live forever without smothering. Therefore we need to know some basic attributes that will keep the love relationship alive to your last breath.

Here are some of the basic attributes to keep your love relationship alive -

1.Commitment

There is nothing greater than committing to have an everlasting love relationship.

You may ask, "Iam in love and why do I need commitment in my genuine love?" Yes, you admire and love him/her but you need commitment in your genuine love due to the following reasons -

i) Human unlimited wants: Your wants are unlimited be it in love or in any other material things. Today you are in love deeply and you think that s/he is the best but tomorrow you see or meet another man or woman.

Temptation is stronger when you see or meet a person who seems to be better. However not one is perfect and good nor imperfect and bad.

Even if you found another person - s/he will be similar in many aspects. So, always think or assume that your lover is the best and perfect and commit your love on him or her only.

ii) Seeing Weakness and problems: As you live closely with her or him - you'll find the negative aspects of the person you are living with. But you have your own weaknesses and problems.

So try to understand your own weaknesses and see the positive side of your lover. All the weaknesses and problems like rigidity, nagging, not understanding, lying, jealousy etc can easily break your true love.

But keeping your commitment in your love will remove all the weaknesses and problems that deteriorate your love.

2) Understanding

If you cannot understand others - you cannot adjust and live together. When you try to understand another person, you can adjust, mingle and live together happily.

Understanding and adjustment come from your heart. A narrow minded person cannot adjust, mingle and understand others. You need to understand the person you are living with.

3) Tolerance

Love is not a bed of roses. There is also ups and down even in true love due to many factors. Your long lasting love is depend on your tolerance.

If you are not ready to tolerate with him/her - squabbling is going to be the game of love. You need tolerance even in your true love - otherwise there cannot be long lasting love.

4.Trusting

Trusting is another very important attributes to keep long lasting relationship. If you cannot trust him/her, you cannot love whole heartedly. Try to trust him/her in whatever s/he does.

5. Forgive and Forget

Forgiving and forgetting all the present and past mistakes will bind more strongly in your love. Forgetting the past mistakes is equally important as forgiving the present mistakes. As we live together, we may commit mistakes but it needs to be forgiven and forgotten.

6. Respect

Everybody wants to be respected in many aspects. Show your respect to him/her and the response will adhere to your love. As you respect each other views and other aspects - your relationship will go deeper and deeper. When you respect some one, it makes that person good and special.

7. Dominating attitude

Wanting to dominate another person is only the dictatorship philosophy. In any good relationship, dominating attitude shouldn't be there. Dominating attitude is obsolete in modern society. No one wants others to dominate him or her.

If you want to dominate and control in every aspects, there is always chances to break up even a genuine love. Man should not try to dominate over woman also the woman should not dominate over man.

Equal sharing power, opinion and helping each other will make stronger in any kinds of love relationship.

8. Showing love

Actually you love him/her. But sometime the other person cannot feel or understand your love. Try to show your genuine love with a gift or anything that will prove your true love.

A loving person is always welcome by everybody. Always be a loving person then you'll always reap undying love with your lover.

9.Sharing and Deliberation

Sharing and deliberation with your lover helps to improve in your love relationship. Always try to share and discuss all the matters with your lover.

Problems may ignite unexpectedly if you do not share and discuss together.

Sharing and discussing improve the relationship; it also shows your respect and love.


R.B. Thohe Pou, a Ph.D. Research Scholar at the University of Pune, writes regularly to e-pao.net
Writer is also a senior North East Student Member in Pune
The writer can be contacted at [email protected]
This article was webcasted on February 11, 2006


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