21st Century Love Letter!

Gitchandra S Oinam *

"Pomduna asum, leiyudee yadana
Khoimusu keeriyee; leisatee tamlaga
Khareeba_ sambalsee, ekhutna siragee
Ekaiba _khanglaga, neehaoragee thamoi"

We can be fall in love anytime, anywhere and any place--we have emotion, feeling and attraction of opposite sex. Love is good but how you behave to your lovers is questionable?

Know this tips before you break the wall:

You're sailing on a dream boat of a relationship and everything is hunky –dory, except for that niggling suspicion that your partner is the captain of the boat and you're being taken for a merry ride. Have your friends been hinting that you're in a one sided relationship and being used? You may not like to believe it of you " loving" partner or even admit to yourself, but shrunk off the comfortable denial blanket. Don't sell yourself short, and you could be being used for sex, money, companionship or status.

A) Date is always in Cabin/bed room: Ideally, dates should involve going out, sometimes with friends, or doing activities interest you—movie, treks, cultural festivals etc. But if you spend more time "doing" than talking, there is a high chance that you are nothing more than a "booty" call. Nothing being introduced to friends or colleagues after a month or so is a sure sign something wrong.

B) All you do: if you are paying for all your entertainment as a couple, then you might be just a meal ticket, or worse still a ploy to make an ex jealous. Does your partner enjoy talking you to office, party, or show you off in front of friends and colleagues? Pay attention to his/her behaviour in public places. Do they enjoy ratting off your accomplishments to the people you met? You might be just trophy then.

C) Aster a few week of dating: a relationship should move to more intimate experiences like hanging out together at home, chilling with family, etc. if your mate shows no sign of wanting to get off the dating train, but expects you to wine and dine them, it is time you get off.

D) He/ She is always short of money: Loaning or trusting each other with money is a stage that should come pretty late in a relationship, when you are comfortable living out of each others pockets. It's a wonderful feeling to have someone to rely on or help out, but it is equally distressing to realize that you're withdrawing a little extra cash every time you meet, just out of habit. Stop lending money and see if your partner sticks around if s(he) doesn't, you know what to do.

E) Comes over when s(he) is bored: great filling of together as much time possible when you are interested in the person. But the feeling is mutual? Can you drop in any time you want to? Or, does s (he) any plans or is busy when you want to come by? If the "drop by" plans are always last minute and you aren't included in his or her other plans, then you are just replacing the television.

Don't be a victim of love:

Since the rules of love are constantly rewritten, here's a look at love in its new hybrid form. Today generation is not afraid of flaunting their constantly changing relationship status and it is time to catch up. Mid love crisis—your love story is something that has broken rules, then you do need to be worried, especially if you've crossed hell and high water to get to where you are right now. We are talking about defying parents, society, an eloped wedding, divorce etc. stop setting unreasonable demands from your partner. Work around your problems. Understanding is the key. Most importantly, try not to break the rules.

As affair to remember: Never get into a relationship with your best friend, simply based on the fact that they are around when you need them. Chances are you won't be able to see eye to eye, if the relationship does not work.

Semblance of fable: a classical fair tale love affairs that is extremely rare to find these days. If your partner is willing to stick with you during crisis then he or she is surely for keeps. When it comes to sticking with each other in the face of a crisis, what matters is following your heart.

Love in reality: getting married on TV channels or social networking site is probably as new age as it can get. Extreme caution and patience is needed to make this kind of a relationship work.

Don't surprise! Young adults have their own world and they are very intelligent too. They know every thing; simply they do not vocal about. So many words go unspoken .As we linger here in the dark, trying to find a way to let the other know how wonderful life is here together silent in the dark. When you thought I wasn't looking I looked at you and wanted to say,' Thanks for all the things I saw when you thought I wasn't looking. When you thought I wasn't looking I saw how you handled your responsibilities, even when you didn't feel good, and I learned that I would have to be responsible when I grow up.

According to research reports- student media usages habits in Manipur is recorded as Internet 87%, TV 100%, radio 73%; cell phone 82%; newspaper 59%. Adult media usage habits are recorded as Internet 40%; TV- 90%; newspaper-100%, radio-77%; cell phone -89%.

How they write love letters?

Dearest Mr. Romeo, With reference to the meeting held between us on Valentine Day, I would like to present myself as a prospective lover. Our love affair would be on probation for a period of three months and depending on compatibility, would be made permanent. Of course, upon completion of probation and showing your age proof, bank balance and HIV proof certificate, there will be continuous on the job training and performance appraisal schemes leading up to promotion from lover to spouse.

The expenses incurred for coffee and entertainment would initially be shared equally between us. Later, based on your performance, I might take up a larger share of the expenses. However I am broadminded enough to be taken care of, on your expense account. I request you to kindly respond within 30 days of receiving this letter, failing which, this offer would be cancelled without further notice and I shall be considering someone else. I would be happy, if you could forward this letter to handsome guys, if you do not wish to take up this offer. Thanking you in anticipation, yours sincerely, Juliet (HR Manager, Key Board Co.).

When a guy kicks-off an affair with a girl the thoughts of a permanent relationship do not cross the mind so early (or so easily). Many affairs fizz out soon and end up being just flings. But some affairs last longer and may morph into a relationship. In most cases, it's here when the question starts cropping up in the head. Generally, it's the woman who initiates this talk of entering into a permanent relationship. Some guys may get caught unawares as they hardly ever consider "taking the relationship to the next level". A woman is more likely to get emotional in the course of a relationship.

Frustrated Romeo reply: Hi! Honey Juliet, with response to your early intimation on the above mention matter, I do agree to be a trainee of fluting arts of love making on probation basis. My testimonial submitting to you is that I will not able give you any assurance of permanent relationship until you show me your asset. Of course, I will bear the extra charges of Restaurant Cabin. You should not get jealous when my ex and new girls call for party just for fun.

I have no problem for bank balance but I would be delight when you do cash transfer from your account to me simply I want to show to my ex; preferably, recharge my cell phone as I do habitually forgetter and I do often long conversation with girls for official matter. I do not mind when you call me "Are you VIP?" Please send only SMS on the off days. I would be happy if you could kindly forward my sincere and open minded response to your beautiful sister, I shall be considering both of you. With love! Yours dude Romeo, lovers' trainee.

How young adult Juliet sends SMS to her loving Romeo: why didn't you pick up my call? Are you VIP? (Usually state VIPs do not pick up telephone) FYI-- Romeo "16 century disguising people are discussing about our topic." Angry Romeo send back SMS; where did they get fund to sensitise our matter? (They learn it from government attack on Anna team agitation.) Juliet response-- don't worry, they speak only progress reports; skills-- they will learn from us. "Please submit action taken report." Romeo reply: "action has been taken; all MMS clips are deleted". Mama Sija na Leisaringei gee meesingse (old tradition people) want to apply their theory to 21st century romance? Ha! Ha! Ha! Singju Lupa Yangkheigee piyu—Kaleja tauge taubane, Mayang Imphal Tombi epom (give me vegetable food stuffs for Rs 50/- – just want to prove I am rich; comedy drama of Mayang Imphal Tombi). Juliet respond; Nang kayano?; Leiraga hatkene ( what is your price? I want to purchase you to kill; comedian Guno)

There is one saying that if you see group of sepoy were laughing together, the topic must be about women. If you see group of women cheating and laughing together, don't closer to them. It must be a topic of men; next topic will be your. One thing that I don't understand about urban women is that some of them are opinion that all members of her in-laws are bad except her hubby. You came only yesterday and you want to take the full rights of their beloved son? Now a day, urban women even complain to serve her husband. They want to break all the rules of tradition. Is it reasonable? Ask this question to a married man "who is more loving parent or wife?

Getting married is every girls dream. The very minute the girl fall in love, in their mind they will plan their wedding. They would imagine themselves walking down the aisle in the most beautiful white grown or traditional wedding dress, in front of all the family, friends and other guest and making a life time commitment with someone who loves, cherish, understand, trust, and believe in you and your dream. Getting married is start of a new chapter in life.

However, Life is changes after marriage—it is about responsibility. One housewife might you rich and famous or another house wife might you infamous and breaks up the whole family. That is why our parents, our tradition think very serious about marriage and choosing right in-law. Real picture of women comes only after marriage. There are many different types of married women out there. Some are sweet and adorable, while other are flirty and love to tease. Here we would look at a couple popular types that man for in a married woman.

Know your couple type first: Psychologists say identifying the type of couple type we are - or would like to be - holds the key to a happy relationship and being able to understand our own needs and those of our partner, reports the Daily Mail. Experts have identified different 'couple types' that we all fall into; examples are 'Cat and Dog' type; pursuer/distance couple; 'Parent and child type of couple.

How to impress a woman: Look her in the eye; Be well groomed; Help her with her work; Socialize with her friends; Ignore your phone; Ask her questions; Open doors; Compliment the way she looks; Ask for her advice; Compliment her positively.

What women want from Men: when we talk 'listen' it shows us that you care about our feelings. 2. Men should be smart enough and understand that not all our bad moods are connected to PHS-ing. Guys, developing an EQ (emotional quotient) would help. That however, does not mean that they need to cry at the drop of a hat, it just means you need to be more sensitive towards us.

4. With women communication is the key, so try and talk to us often. 5. Here are some traits we wish men would display—chivalry, making an extra effort with our friends and family, because we do the same.6. Cook for us once in a while—this one may sound like a cliché, but we love surprises so an occasional effort would not hurt, would it? 7. Your mechanism is not directly proportional to the speed at which you drive your car. Rash driving is so uncomfortable. 8. Be protective, not possessive, hear that? 9. We need our man to proclaim love all the time and we leave it to you as to how you wish to show it.10. Remember, the quickest way to lose a woman is to lie to her; so be honest.

Things you should never tell your girlfriend: Preaching Her Not To Get Emotional; Talking About How Much Money You "Really" Have & How You Handle It; Relating Her Behaviour To Her Hormonal Cycles; Asking About Her Sexual Past Doesn't Help Anybody; Commenting About Her Make-Up Free Look Just Isn't Cool Buddy; Suggesting Couple Activities That You Are Not Likely To Follow; Asking About Her Self-Pleasuring Indulgences; Talking in Detail About Your Relationships; Discriminating Her Outfits or Hairstyle; Making Comparisons That Are Sure To Drive Her Nuts.

Things you should never say to your hubby: Judy Ford, psychotherapist and author of 'Every Day Love' that you should never utter to your significant other, reports the Mother Nature Network.

First: "Yes, I had an orgasm." Another statement that is a strict no-no is "You're just like your father." It's nasty and belittling, says Ford. The third forbidden statement is actually very common: "When are you going to find a new job?" The fourth hurtful statement is: "My mother warned me you'd do this!" The fifth line, which is never a good idea to say, is "Just leave it - I'll do it myself!" Just because he's doing something differently than you would doesn't mean that he's doing it wrong.

The sixth statement, which can be heart breaking, is "You always... [fill in the blank]" or "You never... [fill in the blank]" Then seventh statement that can be a serious blow is "Do you really think those pants are flattering?" Saying so, you're insulting his looks without showing any genuine concern for his health, according to Ford. Then eighth harsh statement is "Ugh, we're hanging out with him again?, which is an insult to your man's choice of friends. The last but not the least is "Please watch the kids. But don't do this, take them here or forget that..." Let Dad-be-dad.

To make your man more romantic: Tease him, Tell him, Teach him, and Treat him well.

What all can kill romantic relationships and how to save it from falling apart; Money, Sex/infidelity, Disrespect ,Children, Opposite-sex friends, Resentments, Lying/broken promises, Laziness, Being mean, Discomfort/remodeling. Getting into a relationship is easy, but keeping it alive is the difficult part. Relationship rules to love

Do not give to receive; don't play the blame game; Peel the onion (without the crying); The happiness equation; Keep each other on your toes; Lust is in the longing...; Don't be a perfectionist; Stay young mentally; know the language of love; Laugh and your partner will laugh with you; Get it off your chest; Can't be bothered to have sex?; Don't just say 'I love you'-communication is important; It's good to share; Give and you shall receive --being generous: with your time, affection and body ; Two routes to happiness-- a great body, quirky personality, infectious laugh and second recognize new attractions- you being supportive, nurturing, a great parent. What you see is what you get; sometimes it's best to shut up; create a good chain reaction; live your life, be free.

Did Men cheat more than women?

When you hear that a couple have split up because of an affair it is easy to assume it was the man's fault, but recent studies suggest that women are much better at keeping their affairs secret. According to Dr David Holmes between eight and 15 per cent of children haven't been fathered by the man who thinks he's the biological parent.