Fate is Fake

Hanna Khumanthem *

"It matters not how strait the gate, how charged with punishments the scroll; I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul."
- William Ernest Henley

I heard the other day a person talking about how he was living a life of misery and suffering, because God has planned all these sufferings for him before he was even born and hence, he didn't stand a single chance of changing whatever has been set for him by God.

I didn't nod my head nor did I argue with him. Because somewhere in my heart, I knew it was wrong and again, I didn't want to get tangled into an unnecessary, stupid fight with someone who has already made up his mind to blame his laziness and cowardice over some made-up, fabricated 'I-am-destined-to-be' theory.

So, guys as I am saying, I absolutely don't believe in 'destiny' and 'fate'. I don't believe in people who say that the entire course of our life has already been set and no matter how much we try to defy it ; how much hard work and sweat and tears we put in doing the things we love, we will always be doomed and damned if we are destined in that way.

I don't believe in people who say that opportunities rarely come to them and that there is lack of resources with which they can start doing things. Trust me dude, that's not right at all. Let me just blurt this out for you since you are that dense. Opportunities will only come to those people who has worked so hard for them and who deserve them.

Not to idle people who loll around and spend 24/7 of their time complaining about their 'ill fated life'.

And again, if you are saying that there is lack of resources: money, guidance or whatever it is, I think you are being a bigger fool. There are tons and tons of people who are managing so many things and doing much more with less and on the other side, you complain about not having enough.

What more do you need? You have both of your parents and bestowed with so much of love and care from them. While, for some people, they are not lucky enough to have even one , but still are doing amazing things. You have eyes, nose, ears, feet, hands… all functioning well and you are fortunate enough to see this beautiful world, your parents' and friends' ravishing faces and smiles.

But some people are not really lucky like you; to see what the world is like , to hear the amazing voices of people, to know his loved ones; but still , they are composing songs, running in the Olympics, writing books and doing wonderful things with that scarce resources that they have.

So, why do you complain? Why do you think you don't have enough?

And, whenever you are facing a problem, please remember that there are thousands of people in this world who have to go through much bigger problems than yours. Therefore ,you don't have the right to complain at all.

And again, guys, I think you must have heard about people saying things like " Aa Tompokki machado handakta ahanba oina NEET thabada 500 fangene, madao yam yabajatnida."

NO. What exactly do you mean by 'luck'? I will say it is proportional to hard work and determination. The more you work hard, the more the chance of 'luck' favouring you.

Therefore, whenever you hear somebody else's story of success next time, never let out the phrase 'madao yabagini' come out of your mouth, because in order to be 'madao yaba', lots and lots of sacrifices and hard work must be made.

Guys, stop living an uncertain life where you led some concocted conspiracy theory define the path that you are going to take, control the level of your success or determine the person that you are going to become.

Remember, you are the writer of your own story and the architect of your dreams and your future. And no matter how ill fated you are, how unlucky you are and how poor you are, if you have the courage to live your dream, keep on walking on the path that your heart wants to go, fight and overcome everything that comes in your way, and if you have the nerve to rise up again with more power whenever you fall, then, believe me, one day or the other, victory will surely be yours and defeated will be your 'fate'.

" Man's main task is to give birth to himself, to become what he potentially is."
-Erich Fromm