Missing: A Room For The Child
My experience, My Best teacher
Gautam Sharma *
Book cover of Intuitive Children: Children Who See Beyond the Veil by Kylie Holmes
NEVER did they asked me, what's the name of my invisible friends whom I played with everyday, nor did they tried to know who was my imaginary play-pal in our small canny-room. But, what my parents asked me to answer was, 'Whom you are talking to?', 'Why you are conversing alone?' Indeed, I've no explanation at those moments coz they can't see my invisible friends, my imaginary play-pal. I was misunderstood by them coz my world was so different from them.
Playing with my imaginary friends made them felt & questioned, is something wrong with this child? Meseems now, there was no room in their brain-slot to attend to my interest and to feel empathy with that magical moments.
It was larger than life, my journey of childhood days were so adventurous. The folktales stories became real and vivid in my dreams, which my elders and betters told me before bed-time. My stable loving companions were my toys and invisible friends, which I felt alive at that moment during play time.
Without wings, oftentimes in my dreams, I fly above the skies, but my parents and teachers don't have the interest to listen-up to me. My nightmares were told that it was just a dream, dreams aren't real, and dreams can't be translated into reality.
Even though it was unappreciative, I was more interested to sing & read the rhymes which I almost have by-heart. And my enthusiasm, energy, excitement never have lessen its degree, to listen to the same old tales that was told several times to me.
But, my interest seems to stay very flipside to my teachers & parents, my interest hasn't become theirs, but their interests were imposed to be followed --- home-works, to pay attention in studies, to attain good grades in exams. It seems, my childhood ended spending more time in school, and more hours with teachers in learning the 3Rs (reading, writing & arithmetic) than with families, friends and Play ground. Since morning I was packed for school, and then, in the evening, I was asked to do my home work.
Complains after complains, my parents received from teachers. It was for not being attentive in my studies, for fidgeting and talking during class-hours, for not doing home-works, and for not remembering the formulas for algebra, geometry, trigonometry or Pythagoras theorem, etc.
But, this doesn't mean that I am a child with Attentive Deficit Disorder (ADD) coz I still memorized the happy moments where my attention were paid and my interest were delivered. I remember the moments when my parents & I went for movies; it was Chota Chetan, and then Saolin Temple.
Often neglected, misunderstood, overlooked by teachers and parent, I was brought up in a deteriorating environment engulfed with issues, where I was asked to choose everything that wasn't mine at all.
I have known the flavors of being rejected, self-dejected and tasted failure, too in confronting the reality trying to enunciate all about me. Today, still I carry-on my mission, for the vision.
All these memories were flash-back, seeing the 3-yrs-old little Hunny Boy. He experiences the same thing like mine, her mother receives the same complains from his teachers.
But today, I can confront with his teacher coz I am attentive to him; I have understood his interest, his world, too. Indeed, he had introduced me to his imaginary playmate, and tells me what he does with him. We watch the same film repeatedly multiples-times with him, and there may be reason & explanation but I have no idea, why ?
I am always keen to know and listen to his dream, so every morn I asked what he dreamt yester-night. He's not just a dreamer but visionary, he sees the futuristic images in his dream, like Leonardo da vinci saw flying machine & helicopter in his dream that was thought to be ludicrous during his time.
Like this little Hunny Boy, there are many children in our state who have invisible play-pals, who saw the futuristic images in dream, who do same activities or watch same film repeatedly. Are you going to ignore their interests? Aren't you going to provide them a room for attention and their interest?
Many called such child as 'Intuitive children', they are born with the sixth sense and you only have five.
Newsperson: Newsperson didn't turn up today, as Sunday is holiday.
Tagline: 'The Shape of an object changes when you change the angles you view'
* Gautam Sharma wrote this article for Huieyen Lanpao (English Edition) as part of his column 'Young Witty & Scurrilous'
This article was webcasted on September 23 2012.
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