TODAY -

Online Chatting: An Insight

James Watson *

Chatting online is fun, funky, interesting, and very relaxing in its own way. The best thing about 'online chat' is that you can say whatever you like, to whoever you like without any fear of being caught in a legal tangle.

As such one can express one's views on various issues freely with an open mind in a chat room. The icing on the cake is that one can do all this without disclosing one's identity.

My tryst with 'online chatting' began in my first year of graduation. It was a friend who introduced me to the art which was very much in vogue at that time and considered "kool." I found it very alluring and it was an instant hit.

The very idea of talking to someone miles away from you (without being face to face), live, was a huge delight. I took to it like fish to water. I started frequenting cyber cafes and got myself hooked to chatting. It was impossible to walk past a cyber cafe.

The temptation was too strong for me to be able to resist. I found myself inside the hot, humid and crowded little room in the basement over and over again. Once you get into the flow of things, you get used to it. The humidity and the extremely hot and uncomfortable conditions of the place could easily be driven to oblivion.

What was more interesting and inviting was the idea of a "chat fren" waiting for you to come online and chat with you. I made lots of friends, chatters like me, in the process. It was some kind of an addiction. What began as a 'time pass' turned to a necessity. There was not a single day when I didn't think of chatting.

There came a time when I felt something needed to be done about it. One couldn't help, but feel guilty. Whereas it was fun and delightful, the idea of it developing into an obsession was dreadful. It was then that I started talking to fellow chatters. And it was heartening to discover people facing the same dilemma.

Most chatters, like me, started it off as 'time pass.' But soon they got hooked to it and before they could understand what really was going on, they realized 'chatting' had become an obsession of their lives.

I also came across 'chatters' who managed to find themselves 'soul mates' in 'chat rooms.' First they start as strangers and then come closer as they get to know each other more. They start enjoying each other's company soon.

Then, one fine day, they decide to exchange 'pics' (photographs) online. After that they end up fixing up a date in some fancy restaurant. And finally, they decide to take nuptial vows, uttering 'I do' in response to the priest. Some might find it too fantastic to be true, 'surreal.' But its happening in cyber world today.

There have also been cases of married couples newly falling in love with each other, though unwittingly. Only to his/her chagrin does he/she reaslises that the stranger who has won his/her heart is the same person he/she has been living with for years.

'Online chatting' has also given a new lease of life to recluses, who are not so confident to express their views. Here, they don't have to reveal themselves. They have the license to be anonymous.

And this helps them become the persons they really are and express themselves confidently without any inhibitions. Online chatting, in this sense, serves as a catharsis to this group of netizens.

For a large majority, 'online chatting' is 'time pass' and an exercise that helps you relax. But there shouldn't be any complaints if someone finds it a 'serious stuff.'

After all it's a free world. No?




* James Watson (also known as 'Hiyang') contributes regularly to e-pao.net. The writer can be reached at musingamong_cauliflower(at)yahoo(dot)com . This article was webcasted on February 05th, 2009.

* Comments posted by users in this discussion thread and other parts of this site are opinions of the individuals posting them (whose user ID is displayed alongside) and not the views of e-pao.net. We strongly recommend that users exercise responsibility, sensitivity and caution over language while writing your opinions which will be seen and read by other users. Please read a complete Guideline on using comments on this website.




LATEST IN E-PAO.NET
  • A trip to Moreh #1 :: Gallery
  • 219th Death Anniv- Bhagyachandra:: Gallery
  • Breach of Privilege & Contempt of the House
  • Career option in History
  • Cry of a Dying River - 1 :: Poem
  • Inner Line Permit (ILP) Demand : Timeline
  • Condemn provocation against Pangal
  • Meetei Demand Of Scheduled Tribe @ Delhi
  • Resolutions adopted by NPF Central HQs
  • TSA-GHQ calls off agitation
  • Diverting filled cylinders from hills
  • Manipur Sangai Festival 2016 #6 : Ooba
  • History of Printing in Manipur
  • Hydro Electric Power: A must for Manipur #1
  • Why Total Knee Replacement is necessary
  • Self-styled godmen and mental darkness
  • The Dawn of Knowledge :: Poem
  • Consideration for Govt on UTLA camp attack
  • Bloody Phanek premiere in South Korea
  • Memo to Satywati College against Hindi
  • NE militant in Myanmar may face problem
  • Putting the limelight on O Ibobi
  • Bamboo - our green treasure
  • Jadonang: Indomitable faith of martyrdom
  • 12th Manipur State League #3:: Gallery
  • Cyberbullying
  • British rule in India: blessing or curse?
  • Candle light for Pravish Chanam at Delhi
  • The Killing Fields :: News Timeline
  • Concern over Cambodia media crackdown
  • Present crisis a blessing for NPF: MLA
  • Medical Camp at Tokpaching, Chandel
  • High promises, high expectations : BJP Govt
  • Traffic regulation still yet be improved
  • Traditional Ritual @Khurkhul #4 :: Gallery
  • Athokpam Tomchou :: Sahityabhusan
  • Kanglasha & Kangla Fort :: 360 ° View
  • Mapithel Dam: Tumukhong village's sorrow
  • Earthen Pots of Thongjao :: Poem
  • Protest Rally at Uchiwa on Pravish's death
  • Three former insurgents killed in Manipur
  • Frisking exercise intensifies along borders
  • Manipur await to deport Rohingya prisoner
  • Culturals @ Pineapple Fest #2 :: Gallery
  • Boisang, Yaronsho, Thangmeiso :: eMing
  • MSL: NISA Vs FC Zalen :: Gallery
  • Fund the Athlete: Support Sumanta Naorem
  • Carbon Sequestration Vs Agroforestry tree
  • PHYNYX changes name & going global
  • NEFIS reaches HM on Pravish death
  • SSP admits lapses; suspends 2 more cops
  • Expecting the expectation
  • Priyogopal : Senior Film Artist :: eRang
  • Ningtham Charei fashion catwalk :: Gallery
  • My Japanlan memoir after 4 score yrs- D
  • Candle light: Justice for Pravish Chanam
  • Science as a Christian vocation
  • Yesterday Today and Tomorrow :: Poem
  • Early Childhood Education Impact Study
  • Condemn the attitude of Noida Police
  • Protest at Noida SSP's office
  • A Child Cannot Decide Its Parent
  • Notification from COHSEM for Class XI
  • Threat to ban movement of non-local
  • Re-defining Mr. Clean perspectives
  • Hathei Phanit @Sirarakhong :: Gallery
  • Education in Manipur- reform & vision
  • Career option in Political Science
  • A Robe of Love :: Poem
  • Memo to CM regarding dead in Noida
  • Meghalaya edition of NH7 Weekender
  • Away from Imphal centric: Govt-Hills Bhai!
  • Panchayat election matters...
  • Reception for CM at CCPur :: Gallery
  • 239th Heikru Hidongba #2 :: Gallery
  • Buddha Said: The More The Govt... #2
  • R & R anomaly in Mapithel dam
  • Letting go :: Poem
  • Bedtime beauty hacks to look young
  • Warepnaba Meefam Saruk Yabiyu
  • Indo-Naga Talks 2017 :: News Timeline
  • Civil Sectt crawling at snail pace
  • Perplexity trends
  • Heitha Leithaba @Kekrupat #2:: Gallery
  • Ningtham Charei :: Fashion Show
  • ISKCON Temple, Imphal #2 :: 360 ° View
  • Remote Villages conditions remain same
  • General Meeting & Social Gathering of EMA
  • Leadership management
  • Karo Sambhav School Program at Tripura
  • Blood Donation Camp at RIMS
  • Another spell of cooking gas shortage
  • Parking paralysis
  • Manipur Univ of Culture #3 :: Gallery
  • Sub Junior Boys Basketball #2 :: Gallery
  • Binalakshmi Nepram: NE Excellence Award
  • Manipuri in Proto-Sino-Tibetan Family
  • Lamka: Urban character with rural admin
  • MUTA Colloquium : 3 decades of teaching
  • Vigil up in Manipur over influx
  • NPF removes Manipur state unit president
  • IIHEd Seminar : The Rohingya Conundrum
  • Inter Village Volley Ball at Chandel
  • Trafficking story from CCpur
  • Local body election matters
  • Pottery Crafts of Manipur #1 :: Gallery
  • Techniche, IIT Guwahati :: Gallery
  • Anger begets hope & constructive action
  • World's oldest Parliamentarian
  • Convocation of Assam Don Bosco Univ.
  • Times I Live In :: Poem
  • Sadar Hills District Demand: News Timeline
  • Date with Sep 11 : Setting new benchmarks
  • Angaoba Film Scenes #2 :: eRang
  • Eyek Tamba :: Learn Manipuri script
  • My Japanlan memoir after 4 score years- C
  • Flood & Ithai Barrage: A brief reflection
  • Indigenous people must be consulted...
  • When a Star Finally Dies :: Poem
  • Job openings at The Rice Company
  • Lesson need to learn from Gouri Lankesh
  • Sumi Hoho calls on Nagaland CM
  • #NeverStop Guwahati: fitness enthusiasts
  • Protests against Myanmar govt
  • Culturals @ Pineapple Fest #1 :: Gallery
  • 12th Manipur State League #1:: Gallery
  • Tete a tete with the Education Minister
  • Freak and frank job interview
  • Buddha Said: The More The Govt... #1
  • Dichtung und Wahrheit :: Poem
  • Protest: Myanmar for persecuting Rohingya
  • Subroto Football under 14 yrs at Delhi
  • Performance anxiety: and its election again
  • Heitha Leithaba @Kekrupat #1:: Gallery
  • Heikru Hidongba Definition: Bijoy Govinda
  • Shri Shri Govindaji Temple #2 :: 360 ° View
  • Era gone with Rishang Keishing demise
  • International Literacy Day, 2017
  • De-notify Disturbed Area tag & repeal AFSPA
  • Waiting for a Good Morrow:: Poem
  • Annual Fresher's Meet, MSAD
  • Clogged waterways: Plastics, plastics...
  • Life is to be lived, not to merely survive
  • State level Teacher's Day :: Gallery
  • MU Inter-College Basketball :: Gallery
  • Half Step Rock signs up PHYNYX, now 'LEN'
  • RIST Talk 31 : metal cholate hydrogels
  • Day 3 at Techniche IIT Guwahati
  • Response to "need male empowerment"
  • Condemns murder of Gauri Lankesh
  • Condemns murder of Bengaluru journalist
  • NPF on impersonation of its President
  • Pre-recruitment Training for Chandel Youth
  • Where are the Ojas in teachers ?
  • Another stunt, but things remain the same
  • Bhoot Ki Thoujal :: Funga Wari
  • 52nd Hunger Marchers' Day #3 :: Gallery
  • Global development agenda & local realities
  • Sita :: Poem
  • Career in Audio/Sound Engineering
  • Education for conflict
  • Bikram's Blog :: 10 Year on Web
  • 7th Pay & the fiscal reality of the State
  • Of Patriot and patriotism
  • 2nd Conclave of NEDA
  • Kang Tournament #2 :: Gallery
  • NE Fashion Week #2 :: Gallery
  • Beauvoir's Second Sex & Maam's teaching
  • Face to Face with Rishang Keishing
  • ...real fact nobody wants to tell naked truth
  • to whom it may concern :: Poem
  • Importance of yoga
  • 'Court Arrest Prog' on Teachers' Day
  • Recruitment drive at Globizs, Imphal
  • JCILPS back after a brief lull
  • Culture of respect
  • 239th Heikru Hidongba #1 :: Gallery
  • Oinam Doren wins award in Italy (Lessinia)
  • For Chester : Tribute Concert :: Gallery
  • Make Manipur 'Gateway' to ASEAN
  • For all plasti-zens
  • Sailing in the Troubled Waters :: Poem
  • CM's advisor interacts with students
  • Discussion: Scenario of Indian Politics
  • Catching up with former CM, former CSs
  • Id-ul-Zuha @ Hatta, Minuthong :: Gallery
  • Tribute to Rishang Keishing #3 :: Gallery
  • Heikru Hidongba
  • Result: 3rd Imphal National Photo contest
  • Japanlan memoir after four score years- B
  • NE needs moral guiding force like Rishang
  • STDCM na sougatli
  • Battling the cancer of corruption
  • First day of IIT Techniche 2017
  • Haipou Jadonang day :: Gallery
  • Sub-Junior Football for NE :: Gallery
  • Haipou Jadonang - The Martyr #2
  • NHPC's Loktak Project: Curse for Manipur
  • Of War and Peace :: Poem
  • Techniche 2017 kick starts in IIT Guwahati
  • Software Engineer @ Cobigent Tech
  • LPG cylinders sold like potatoes
  • Consistency containing nature vagaries
  • Xth Pineapple Fest @CCpur :: Gallery
  • Translation of "Puya" in English
  • L Devendro & Diana Chanu :: Reception
  • L Devendro : O Bembem :: Arjuna Awards
  • Ige KNliye kabita Ama :: Seireng
  • For Chester : Graffiti Work :: Gallery
  • Karong Children home wash away:: Gallery
  • State bids adieu to Rishang :: Gallery
  • Rishang Keishing : A profile
  • Tribute to Rishang Keishing #2 :: Gallery
  • Tamu, Myanmar- Moreh border #2 :: Gallery
  • Old Manipuri Movie #1 :: eRang Classic
  • Nungbi Khullen, Ukhrul #2 :: Gallery
  • Singcha Wuya Won (flower) #3:: Gallery
  • Landscape of Ukhrul District #2:: Gallery
  • Landscape of Manipur #7: Wallpaper
  • Featured Photo for 2017 #3 :: Gallery
  • SPONSORED ADS