Wrong Teaching

Louriyam Bebica *

To be a leader, first, be a human.
Carrying only the form of human doesn't certify you to be a human.
To be a leader, stand for truth
Posting selfie on Facebook page, doesn't display your kindness.
Your Apple phone or Rolex watch doesn't reveal your wealth.

A wealth is the blessing and love by your people.
Not when they wanna reach your neck at the very moment you appear in front of them.
God has granted a BRAIN, do access and make use of it.
Don't block him from functioning, you are not born a puppet.

Hardly people live to 100 years,
Nor I think you are one of them.
So, count the years of your remaining life,
Don't assume to be long.
In short, its short.

So, live and let other live.
Be friend with your brain and restrict your tongue.
If you can say no good, don't say ill too.

I laugh at your thought when you tag yourself with
'Intelligent, if able to manipulate situation for your benefit'
For your knowledge, I coined you the most stupid for this act.
I say nothing, doesn't mean I know nothing.
So, stop fooling yourself and be a true leader.

The very thought of realizing that some group of people does exist who treats woman as a sex object is scary. This thought is more horrified when we had to accept the fact that they don't spare even a baby. Or should I say, seeing the fact 'they feel no guilt nor regret' sicken me to the core of my heart. Here, I frankly do not know who is the real culprit 1) the one who raped the girl, b) the one proudly walked defending those monster in the name of religion, c) the leader who allows this system OR d) the girl who is born as a GIRL.

When are we going to realize, we can't accept his cruelty because he is a Hindu, nor we can't punish his innocent, because he is a Muslim. Let's punish for his act, not for his religion.

I was always taunted by my grandma, according to her I did not know what is asheng amang 'religious rule'. Nor I ever cared on her words. Because my dad always says, "Be a good human, never do anything to other that you will never like other to do on you". This principle is the religion of my father. And I kind of fit into it.

He says, "The ideology behind every religion is wonderful and peaceful. But, as we cannot deny the fact that 'meaning lie on the person who interprets it, like beauty lie in the eye of the beholder', and people take the freedom to interpret it as they wish. They justify their evil acts in the name of religion, as they know, Mr. Religion will never stand against them to speak in his defense. However, if you ever find yourself in a situation where religion is used as an instrument to justify your sin, remember, you are religion -LESS".

I have seen his anger and helplessness in his eyes often, when his mother has something or other to comment on my mom. I am sure, my grandma will agree with me that my mom is such a wonderful and lovely person. However, she always seems to have problem with her. The only explanation she could give was, "Why did my son married a woman of another caste, he has broken the way to heaven for me".

I do not how the way to heaven is related to my mom's caste system. I really do not know. Whenever, I asked my mom this question, either she will cry or she will excuse herself and ignored my question. Dad is the only one who seems to have a vison/answer to my question. He believes, my grandma has taken the liberty to interpret her religion according to her wish, which he called 'WRONG TEACHING'.

It is so unfortunate that our society is soaked in the pond of this WRONG TEACHING. It is beyond any words to express the society we are living now. People are judged base on their religion, if you are Muslim, you are terrorist, if you are Hindu, your acts can be justified, if you are Christian, you are not a brother bla bla. I don't understand how they justify their ideology to be correct. Sometime, if possible, I would love to go inside their brain and check what kind of extra mechanisms they have, that enable them to think it is right.

My dear, all the Muslims are not terrorist, nor all the Hindus are innocent. Please, terrorist is terrorist, rapist is rapist, Muslim is Muslim, Hindu is Hindu, Christian is Christian, like tree is tree, dog is dog as simple as that. They are different terms, kindly don't tag a permanent mislead concept on it. Let the people judge base on his/her character.

It is not a shirt or shoe that are sold in a mall where rates are fixed. Don't apply the concept, the price of your shoes is 5000 rupees, and it is not negotiable. It is different domain, treat it differently. Because, different things are made for different domains, if you try to misadjust them, it will only make a chaos scenario.

Let me share about one of my friend who happened to be my roommate too at the time of our college life. During those period, once, there was a flood. Every institution was closed down and we were asked to evacuate from the hostel. The road was flooded and those electric wires by the sides of the road were laying under the water. It was high risk for everyone to walk on the road. So, basically, no one or let's say no man of any religion was willing to come and pick her from the hostel. But, her two friends came to pick her up. Can you believe, they took turns and carried her on their back till they reached safely.

If they happened to judge my friend base on her religion, they won't have come on that day. Because, according to our society, Muslims are supposed to hate Hindu or vise versa, and she is a Hindu. But, they came, because, they did not judge her base on her religion. So, she always jokes, my two best friends are Muslims, but, it doesn't make me an unpatriotic person.

I am not trying to appreciate or disgrace any particular community or religion. My only request is, 'judge a person base on his/her character. Don't come to the conclusion without knowing anything about him/her, only because he/she belongs to a particular religion'. It does not matter whether his name is Arif, or Ady or whatever. It is just a term, it has nothing to do with who he really is.

And also, we live in a country of democracy, giving us the liberty to be liberal. This gives you the authority to have your own ideology which is your BUSINESS. So, if you believe, it is wrong to eat pork, don't eat or if you believe, it is wrong to eat beef, don't eat. However, if you try to impose it on someone who has different beliefs, it is not your BUSINESS. In other words, lets mind our own BUSINNES.

* Louriyam Bebica wrote this article for
The writer can be contacted at louriyambebica(AT)gmail(DOT)com
This article was webcasted on April 28 , 2018.

* Comments posted by users in this discussion thread and other parts of this site are opinions of the individuals posting them (whose user ID is displayed alongside) and not the views of We strongly recommend that users exercise responsibility, sensitivity and caution over language while writing your opinions which will be seen and read by other users. Please read a complete Guideline on using comments on this website.

  • Gaan-Ngai @Chingmeirong : Gallery
  • Gaan-Ngai - festival of Kabui #1
  • Protest against CAB [Jan 15] #2: Gallery
  • Gaan-Ngai, Festival of Zeliangrong
  • Understanding Mao Tse-Tung
  • Of Vernacular & my Enlightenment..
  • Teacher wanted at Tekcham High School
  • Demanding release of Kishorechandra
  • BJP's Agenda : Curtain raised
  • Topping in enrolment in pvt schools
  • Imoinu Erat Thouni #1 : Gallery
  • Gaan Ngai :: Flash Presentation
  • CAB Protest [16 Jan] : Gallery
  • Dr Thokchom Asha: Teacher Award
  • Cry of a Dying River - 62 :: Poem
  • Occasion & festivity as career choice
  • Rejoinder to NDPP on CAB by NPF
  • Saving tomorrow for our children
  • Open invitation to Mission schools
  • Women's Intl Polo [Jan 17] : Gallery
  • A Hymn for Goddess Emoinu
  • Manipur tops enrolment in private schools
  • Variance of laboratory results
  • A Christian perspective on solidarity #2
  • Inner Line Permit (ILP) Demand :: Timeline
  • Naga International Trade Fair at Dimapur
  • Has Loktak mortgaged to Company
  • CAB: Lining up public convention on Jan 20
  • Purnima Ngangom (Printmaker) :: Profile
  • CAB Protest [11 Jan] #3 : Gallery
  • Poetry Of Manipuri Women Authors #2
  • CAB & scoring 21 out of 25 ?
  • Complications :: Poem
  • North East Business Summit at Delhi
  • Almond oil is the ultimate skin care
  • The Bill that haunt the government
  • Over 50 police personnel chargesheeted
  • Insurgency related incidents in NE states
  • Myanmar border fence going nowhere
  • Protest against CAB [Jan 15] #1: Gallery
  • CChongkhong, Apanthou :: eMing
  • Crop diseases & organic way of managing
  • War and Poetry :: Poem
  • Landeng-Pena yakaiduna Poster Campaign
  • The Killing Fields 2013-18 : News Timeline
  • Condemns communal nature of CAB 2016
  • PCC, Arunachal Pradesh on CAB, 2016
  • CAB and other issues before LS polls
  • Sit-In against CAB [Jan 14] : Gallery
  • CAB : Our Identity & Culture is at stake
  • Re-Imagining the Naga Peace Process
  • Demand for ILP :: Articles/Photos...
  • Northeast Startup Summit 2019
  • Ponder them to live like human beings
  • No Shield for Manipur against CAB
  • Missing link: NE, CAB & obscure assurance
  • JCILPS Protest against CAB : Gallery
  • AMUCO Rally against CAB : Gallery
  • Poetic Justice - II :: Poem
  • Makar Sankranti Musing
  • Biren should release Kishorchandra
  • New archaeological site in Senapati
  • A Christian perspective on solidarity #1
  • New craft gallery to promote NE products
  • Rights body warns Nagas on Article 371 (A)
  • NE Black Day against CAB : Gallery
  • CAB Protest [11 Jan] #2 : Gallery
  • Narendra Modi @ Imphal #2: Gallery
  • Myanmar-India Business Summit, Sagaing
  • Cry of a Dying River - 61 :: Poem
  • Preventing the Dengue threat
  • NPF on Citizenship Amendment Bill, 2016
  • Nagaland Chief Minister On CAB 2016
  • Hijacking by pseudoscience
  • Mr. CM, you can't fool people on CAB
  • CAB 2016: Adoption of foreign citizens
  • CAB Protest [11 Jan] #1 : Gallery
  • CAB & question of India's North East
  • Poetry Of Manipuri Women Authors #1
  • Local actions for #GlobalGoals
  • Know your HIV status
  • Pope Francis - the last Pope!
  • CAB is unsecular discriminatory bill
  • When Govt. disregard Constitutions...
  • Citizenship Bill: An exceptional exception
  • The Walking Lady : A Short Story
  • 4th Convocation Ceremony of CAU
  • The Voice of Silence :: Poem
  • Against CAB 2016 : 6 Student Bodies
  • Need for a separate time zone
  • BOOM MMA : 'Manipur Top Team' members
  • Against Citizenship Bill Act 2016
  • Lt Gen Rajeev Sirohi at Spear Corps
  • Is the middle man responsible
  • Economically weak at Rs 8 lakh per annum ?
  • Umanglai Haraoba: Traditional Institution
  • Strike against CAB : Gallery
  • People - animal conflict
  • Fine on relieving in public
  • Flawed/divisive Citizenship Bill dangerous
  • Broken :: Poem
  • Meetei gi mayokta leiba Political party..
  • NE uniting under shutdown call : CAB
  • Trains in NE to get 'glass-top' coaches
  • Yubi Lakpi #2 : Gallery
  • Freedom's fault lines
  • Traditional Manipuri Curries
  • Governance in Multi-Ethnic States
  • Understanding animal welfare
  • Unite against corruption for development
  • Manipurgi Maraibk Kari Oihougani
  • On restoring of director of CBI
  • Citizenship Bill : scourge for NE
  • Feel good factor from UNC
  • New Year picnic at Sekmai #2: Gallery
  • A tale of two falcons
  • Artificial Insemination in livestock
  • The Naked Truth :: Poem
  • My itinerary visit to Veeranapalya
  • Test for Free Coaching for IIT/AIIMS
  • Critique of Transgender Persons Bill
  • Press Rejoinder from NPF [7 Jan]
  • Nagaland Cabinet on Citizenship Bill
  • Can we expect something from govt
  • Mova Cave, Ukhrul #2 :: Gallery
  • Sangai Fest: Sumo Wrestling #2 :: Gallery
  • Maipaksana RK: Entrepreneurship Award
  • Poetic Justice - I
  • IIT-G Technology Incubation Centre
  • Sana Chahi Ahum & 1857 revolt #2
  • Economics of climate change & growth
  • Singhat Students tour to Delhi & Agra
  • Congress against Modi on Rafale Deal
  • Press Club celebrates foundation day
  • NSF to impose 11-hr bandh on Jan 8
  • 518 drug traffickers arrested in 2018
  • Gangmumei Kamei Memorial lecture
  • Taking the Street Vendor seriously #1
  • WWII museums in Japan: Gallery
  • Schedule : HSLC Examination 2019
  • Schedule : Class XI Examination 2019
  • Schedule : HSE Examination 2019
  • Caste System in Contemporary India: Book
  • Save energy and save your skin
  • Benefits of henna for beauty
  • Coronary In-stent obstruction treated
  • A take on PM visit to Imphal
  • No over the top promises, assurances
  • Narendra Modi @ Imphal #1: Gallery
  • Management of commercial broiler farming
  • 61st CC Meet Football Tournament 2019
  • Noise Ruins & Blights Lives
  • Social media & freedom of speech
  • Cry of a Dying River - 60 :: Poem
  • Declare war against air pollution
  • Winter relief at Thanga
  • Of monologues and conveniences
  • Raising posers before PM's arrival: Cong
  • Irengbam Bedamani :: eRang Photos
  • Poireiton Chakhao at Loktak Lake
  • Hojang :: Poem
  • New Year: Challenges & opportunities
  • One Rank One Pension Paper (OROP)
  • Fasting before diagnostic tests
  • Open Mic. event at Agartala
  • Happy New Year '2019' :: NPF
  • Naga Peace Process :: News Timeline
  • Respecting life & the trust deficit
  • Need to look beyond New Year-2019
  • New Year picnic at Sekmai #1: Gallery
  • May the Year 2019 bring integrity of Manipur
  • Sangai Fest: Evening Prog #2: Gallery
  • What I learned from Kishorchandra detention
  • Charlie, the angel :: Story
  • Against NSA to Kishorchandra Wangkhem
  • Quality New Year
  • Reminder to PM on Pravish Chanam death
  • What is there to be happy on New Year
  • Nupi Lal Ningsing Lamjel #4: Gallery
  • Eyek Tamba :: Learn Manipuri script
  • Village Authority in Hill Areas of Manipur #2
  • Sana Chahi Ahum & 1857 revolt #1
  • Local leaders commit to #endTobacco
  • Transformation of China in last 40 years
  • Boys Hostel for Pangal Students
  • From the diary of an insomniac - II
  • From nomenclature conflict of oral tradition
  • Gearing up for Parliamentary polls
  • Dimapur Meetei Council donates
  • Bye Bye 2018 !!! : Gallery
  • Manipuri Calendar for 2019 : Download
  • Featured Front Page Photo 2018 #6: Gallery
  • Unforgettable Revolutionary NK Sanajaoba
  • Life's pain :: Poem
  • New Year resolution of our honorables
  • Certificate distribution at Namsai, ArP
  • Indo-Myanmar Relations : Talk @ MU
  • Butchering a Pony for meat! Shameful
  • Top 5 Indie/Alternative Picks of 2018
  • Sangaithel Park @Sangai: Gallery
  • A view of Ukhrul Town #1: Gallery
  • January Calendar for Year 2019 :: Tools
  • National Mathematics Day & Ramanujan
  • Thougal Jagoi @Sangai: Gallery
  • Snowfall @Tamei, Tamenglong : Gallery
  • China spreads across Indochina Peninsula
  • Ningol Chakkouba Shopping a#2: Gallery
  • Cry of a Dying River - 59 :: Poem
  • Match words with actions to #endTB
  • Hacking : Base of all cyber crimes
  • Illegal adoptions in hospitals
  • Controlling the school transporters
  • Detention under NSA : Stand of MUSU
  • Xmas: Churches @Lamphel : Gallery
  • 27th Imphal Book Fair #2 : Gallery
  • The Crying Call of Motherland :: Poem
  • Kwatha Festival #3 : Gallery
  • 12th Manipur Polo Intl #2 : Gallery
  • Oinam Dilip : Rising Star Award 2018, Delhi
  • Harvard Leadership Program at Don Bosco
  • Christmas @Churachandpur : Gallery
  • UN Rapporteur briefed on Kishorechand
  • Nupi Lal Ningsing Lamjel #3: Gallery
  • Irengbam Bedamani - Actress :: eRang
  • List of Restricted Holidays for 2019
  • List of Public Holidays for 2019
  • List of General Holidays for 2019
  • Ningol - mapam lamdam : Gallery
  • Fabrics of Bangladeshi Manipuri: Download
  • Manglandasu Nang - OST :: e-pao Radio
  • Old Manipuri Movie #1 :: eRang Classic