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Parents are supposed to be cheer leaders not coach

Birkarnelzelzit Thiyam *



Do you wanna die with an end or die with a beginning? I have been asked a lot of times for who is my Grandpa? All I say is Late Yaima Achouba. To take a close note, I use the word LATE here stating the being of discontinuation.

Do we use LATE in front of Albert Einstein, Isaac Newton, Mahatma Gandhi, Thangal General? No, why? Because they listen to their heart, they had no fear in telling the world what they want. Now, option lies in your hand; to end with death or to go on even with death.

Sometimes when we are guided by our seniors and we are also told for which path to be walked and when you fall, you will cry with depression as you will blame the senior who guided you. Your guide should be your hunger not your elder, coz when you fail, you will rise more higher as you will get the blame. Your parents and elders are just well wishers not your trail creators.

Life is all about walking alone even if you don’t want to. Stop fooling yourself by telling that you have many to walk with, the day you try to lean on others, you will fall and that’s the day you will realise that you are alone. Prepare your life for walking alone. Parents are suppose to be the cheer leaders of their children not their drivers.

Do you wanna give up at times? Giving up is nothing but walking away from something you like because you wanna get the prize before the competition. That essence of giving up comes because you walked in thinking you can reach the end, but the truth in life is, it’s endless. It’s about how much you can go on.

So when you are so damn tired, instead of thinking, “Ah! I can’t reach there, let me give up,” just feel like, “let me just move a step further.” You are supposed to be inspired by the path that you travel not by the destination.

Every time you put make up, don’t try to put the make up with the dream of wanting to look like someone. You will get nothing but disappointment. And stop going to gym wanting to be like someone. Just stop it. Now, close your eyes and imagine the ‘best version’ of yourself being beautiful then put the make up on, you will certainly live a life with satisfaction.

When you try to look up to someone for motivation, be inspired by why he get that not by what he got.

From the very first day we go to school we are told to ask question to others to clear our doubt, we are told to ask questions to teachers. It has been a culture that the one who ask the most is treated as the most obedient student, and everyone goes with that flow. Every time we ask something to others we never thought that we are killing our own creativity.

Now, to be open, I was never told or taught in school that if I have any problem, ask yourself what to do but to ask to teachers for the solutions. The first step to every success is to start asking questions to yourself, trust me you have everything. It may take time to come out but it surely will. The moment we start asking to ourselves, we will certainly increase our problem solving skills and to be honest, I feel that 99% suicidal thought attached people can be saved.

Many of you are giving up your dreams because of the words from your neighbour, i.e. “What will you do with your passion when you don’t get money?” Let me tell you, when your evening days of your life comes and just days away from closing your eyes, you will not ask, “How much money have you earned?” but you will ask, “How much happiness have you gained?”

Trust me, happiness is at risk from the moment you give up your dream and the next thing is, “who told you that your dream is not worth earning money?” The world have even started competition for who can sleep the most and you are here sitting in your room listening to those illiterate neighbours judging you and your dream and you are giving up your dream? How stupid you are?

From today if they tell you and talked to you about money and monthly salary stuff, tell them, “I don’t want monthly salary but hourly salary.”


* Birkarnelzelzit Thiyam wrote this article for The Sangai Express
The writer is a Motivational Orator, based in Canada. And can be reached at birkarnelzelzitthiyam3073(AT)gmail(DOT)com; Facebook – Birkarnelzelzit – Young Thoughts; Twitter – Birkarnelzelzit, INSTAGRAM – Birkarnal
This article was posted on May 22, 2017.


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