TODAY -

Lavish event management gone wrong

Lunminthang Haokip *



The Urge To Hold Events: Every Kuki who had arrived as a social icon to reckon with has this incorrigible urge to splurge in a social event. All costs are calculated. Life is short. Accidents make it shorter. What's the harm in burning a few hundred thousands of rupees in exchange for life-time recognition of one's achievements ?

So thinks the upwardly-mobile Kuki who can afford to smash a costly mobile hand-set at the slightest provocation. SAIL (Steel Authority of India) claims that there is a little bit of steel in every man. Likewise, there is a little bit of showmanship in every Kuki.

The man of the moment who has arrived in the social scene, with a bang of the cymbal, would not settle for anything lesser than a glittering bash in which the 'glitterati' in his social circle should come. Famed crooners must lend their voices and add spice. This is imagined to increase the prestige percentage of a do. Thrift is thrown to the winds when 'Mogambo' is in 'khush-hua ' mode.

Reasons To Hold Events: In a democratic set-up, you can never predict the future of an ordinary guy who hails from an obscure hill village or a backward small town. Political changes driven by the forces of clannish one-upmanship equations, at times, catapult an erstwhile "lacking Jack" of pitiable standing to the enviable position of a "showy king" through the mysterious plotting, weird machinations and honeyed-talks of staking spin-doctors.

The hurt sentiments of those who were trampled on the way to unbecoming prominence, and at whose expense the undue success happened, need to be pacified. The hidden motive gets cleverly covered up in the festive splash of a social bash. One-time estranged friends shake hands in such a gathering, uneasy blushes are exchanged, ice is broken and groupies are clicked to capture moments of cordiality when the past becomes passť.

Unexpected Success: A critic once said, "Success in competitive exams comes about not as much due to one's good performance as much as due to the poor performance of other competitors". I believe there is an element of truth in the wise observation.

Pu WL Hangshing, Retd IAS, who held different top-level posts in Government of Manipur, said that the total marks he scored in the UPSC-conducted exam that lifted him to the big league of IAS was less than the total marks he scored in the year he was offered IPS. Luck and chance also play a role in appointments to high posts and positions.

In certain cases, promotions also favour the less-deserving. Success by default calls for celebration to make things appear hard-earned. Yet, no one can contradict the fact that "Success is getting what you want; but happiness is wanting what you get". In cases when you do not like what you are getting, despite the success, your happiness will still be half-baked.

The Initial Hurdle: The most difficult part of holding an event is delivery of Invitation Cards. You may wonder why ?

How insignificant in society you may be, you have your own friend-circle, past class-fellows and former glass-fellows, relatives who talk about you in superlatives and the ones who spat expletives on you, people you put up with but would actually like to put down, acquaintances who expect invitation but you think they deserve isolation and powerful dignitaries you cannot afford to ignore. List settled somehow, there is the problem of delivery of the invitation cards.

As the host, you have a hundred matters to take care of. You end up entrusting the odd job to any available man-Friday to learn the misses later, through verbal hisses, that the bunch of cards meant for a particular area finally landed up in the hands of an even more unreliable person who played truant and bring embarrassment to the event management.

The poor host who can't multi-task to oversee all the knick-knacks of the proposed bash, gets the brickbats for no fault of his. The sad part is that there's no time to explain things to each of the 'aggrieved' party.

Managing Egos: Kuki bashes are mostly held in the back blocks. Maddening urbanization leaves little parking space in the big towns where other facilities are easy to hire. Country-side venues appear picturesque and ideal to accommodate thousands of invitees but participants have to either hire a vehicle to make it in the far-flung place of celebration or have to spend heavily on fuel expenses.

The extra-expenditure incurred on conveyance makes one extra-sensitive to the manner in which one is welcomed or attended to or otherwise. The host, for all the attention, can't personally meet all the guests.

He has to rubber-neck here and there with make-belief flashes of smile. People come with all levels of personality. Some are brazen. Others are shy. The shy ones who fail to gather enough spunk to go up on the stage and greet the host silently suffer 'imagined' neglect. Such are the diverse mental make-up of different categories of guests that it's next to impossible to make all feel happy.

Tales of Wail: A lady from Sadar Hills had to go back from an event in Chandel district without presenting her gift simply because she was not given the VIP-reception she desired. A reluctant invitee from Imphal felt terribly let down that the host did not look straight at him flaunting a 100-watt smile while they shook hands.

A socialite, in the height of her vanity, preferred to go starving in a bash where the hostess failed to bestow upon her the importance she thought she ought to have got. And yet the most complicated issue to settle on the part of an event-manager is the nursing of a secret urge on the part of some invitees to address the audience out-of-turn outside service order.

While the assertive lot want to say something, the host fiddles in fear of his event being dubbed boring, when short speech becomes 'sot (long) speech. When there's controversy between the priorities of the host and the hosted, tension looms large. The host who thought he would be some sort of 'Prince of Wales' by showing goodness to all, becomes a 'prince of wails!' Instead.

Food For Thought : In an event, although a time is given for arrival, human nature being what it is, schedules are not kept. Some reach early to rue over the hurry and others come late without feeling sorry. The economics of management fix the time for feasting, in print, after the programme is over.

Many of the invitees who had to start early in the morning of the day from a long distance are compelled to sit through the meeting with hunger gnawing at their vitals. And if the service drags on like the monsoon rain that does not know when to stop, the hungry lot have to leave the event before feast-time.

The only way to salvage a bash from being mis-managed in this regard is to open the kitchen throughout the day. The cost incurred would be the same, more or less, but the management would be saved from the taunt of acidic tongue-wagging.

At times the crowd turn-out exceeds the estimation of the event managers. In the back blocks, caterers are far to seek. So, due to shortage of foodstuff, some have to go back hungry, and angry !

Gifts Wrapped In Self-Importance : For all the teachings on self-denial in Church-messages, we have not quite learnt the finer implications of self-denial. The craving to underline one's participation in an event manifests itself in the form of a demand, through a small chit, for a slot to present a gift from the stage.

When scores of invitees suffer from the same I-sickness, the meeting is stretched to intolerable limits. What is the need to go ostentatious in the full glare of the audience when one could have silently submitted one's gift-packet at the reception counter, if desire is not to show off one's importance or the lack of it ?

This old habit doesn't change even in a funeral service. It will, hopefully, change only when one is the 'centre of attraction' in the latter service. In funerals, the purpose of the gathering is to mourn over someone's demise, and to comfort the surviving family members. So it's a time not to keep flaunting one's impulse to impose one's prominence under 'super-check.'

Announcement of VIPs: In a big meeting, biggies attend along with small fries. Vanity in bigness demands recognition and snobbery in smallness craves for appreciation. At such critical junctures when one's status is undermined in public, VIP may as well become "very insecure person". So, lesser mortals make it a point to announce big names and designations in a given assembly.

However, at times, due to nervousness or ignorance, smaller guys are made more prominent than bigger ones. This "pardonable human weakness" becomes unpardonable to the victims of management lapses. The beleaguered host, at the end of the day, mentally vows never to arrange another event.

But when fortune favours his family again, he forgets the messy past, and gears himself up to go full throttle in stitching up another bash. All said and done, the best event is yet to be managed. A perfect one, of course, is imaginary. Reality, as of now, is oddity.


* Lunminthang Haokip wrote this article for The Sangai Express
The writer is an IAS (Retd)
This article was webcasted on May 05 2022 .



* Comments posted by users in this discussion thread and other parts of this site are opinions of the individuals posting them (whose user ID is displayed alongside) and not the views of e-pao.net. We strongly recommend that users exercise responsibility, sensitivity and caution over language while writing your opinions which will be seen and read by other users. Please read a complete Guideline on using comments on this website.




LATEST IN E-PAO.NET
  • Top 3 Museums in Manipur
  • COVID-19 Status 28 June : Govt of Manipur
  • Opening a new door : A Closure
  • 100 Trees Planted in memory of Dr Kishan
  • Serendipity :: Poem
  • The Agnipath Yojana : Deify or demonise ?
  • On Govt's move to carry out delimitation
  • Fertiliser : Govt assures, farmers unsatisfied
  • More than putting vehicle into motion
  • COVID-19 : Impact in Manipur :: News Timeline
  • ILP Check point at Jiri : Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 27 June : Govt of Manipur
  • The untold story, lest it be forgotten
  • Assistance to victims of Assam Flood
  • A glimpse of 'Yangna Paikhredako Punshi'
  • Market innovations in developing country
  • Anti-drug day expose state pathetic situation
  • The wedge amongst the Nagas
  • Coming of Manipur University in 1980
  • COVID-19 Status 26 June : Govt of Manipur
  • Laitonjam Lanchenba: Best Swimmer
  • Our capital Imphal - the city of sanity
  • Workshop : ND & PS Act, 1985
  • Mara Prabhu - Lord of the trees
  • Essence of international anti-drug day
  • July 1 : Taking the fight to plastic
  • Miss Shirui Lily 2022 #3 : Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 25 June : Govt of Manipur
  • Flesh Trade : Connection between Goa & NE
  • Importance of Soil Testing & Management
  • ST status Vs Classical language for Meetei
  • Life, faith and belief
  • MANISFA General Secretary appointed
  • Flood Watch : 23rd June #2 : Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 24 June : Govt of Manipur
  • Community led in ensuring HIV treatment
  • Approach to ideology & development
  • Solar Energy solution for healthcare facility
  • Yoga for health, beauty and immunity
  • Innovation Prize Launched for Designers
  • Knotty higher education sector
  • Classical language status and ST demand
  • Flood Watch : 23rd June #1 : Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 23 June : Govt of Manipur
  • Birds and Bees Talk launched 3rd phase
  • Luck matters, Rio's first entry into cabinet...
  • Need to deal with dumping of waste materials
  • Training on mushroom at Nagamapal
  • 1961 as base year: Take it or leave it
  • 10 years too late : JCILPS
  • Phamnaiba Jagoi @ Thangjing : Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 22 June : Govt of Manipur
  • Women's cleanliness enjoys equal rights...
  • Life in some hill villages
  • The MCI Restoration II
  • 'BRO Cafes' on 75 border roads
  • Protest over boundary row headache for Govt
  • Issues on the indigenous question
  • Drug Menace In Manipur : Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 21 June : Govt of Manipur
  • ST tag for Meiteis - A perspective!
  • Manipur State Welfare : Politics 1-0 Citizens
  • International Yoga Day at Assam Rifles
  • International Yoga Day at IBSD Imphal
  • International Yoga Day at NSU Imphal
  • Manipur Lokyukta: Fighting against corruption
  • Vision to distribute local rice under NFSA...
  • Taking the fight to the drug menace
  • Landslides - Imphal-Jiri [Jun 17] : Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 20 June : Govt of Manipur
  • Thangjing in folklore of Koireng tribe
  • Health Workshop on Diabetes at Pune
  • Everyone is a thief :: Poem
  • E- barton for CM & Governor
  • Intensive cultivation of vegetables
  • High time to encourage e-vehicle operators
  • Scripting success story with Rs 500
  • Leima Jagoi by Transgender #1 : Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 19 June : Govt of Manipur
  • June 19 2022 : Father's Day message
  • Nine Hills One Valley : Ottawa Film Fest
  • Shirui Lily Festival or mud festival ?
  • Yoga for Women organised
  • Flight link to Mandalay dream come true
  • Action of Govt needs to be backed
  • 21st Great June Uprising #1 : Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 18 June : Govt of Manipur
  • The Great June 18 Uprising :: News Timeline
  • Revive environmentalism in Meetei ethos
  • COVID-19 Status 17 June : Govt of Manipur
  • Elephant army of Lord Guruvayurappan
  • Who will be next at Rashtrapati Bhawan
  • Hiyang Tannaba @ Loktak #1 : Gallery
  • Freedom movement against British #2
  • Inequity and health security
  • Donating blood is an act of solidarity
  • Unregulated deposit schemes & BUDS Act
  • Extension of entry age : Agnipath
  • Citizens feeding on adulterated food items
  • Of food safety and street vendors
  • Pooja Elangbam, IAS, 81st ranker in AICS
  • COVID-19 Status 16 June : Govt of Manipur
  • NE Model @Delhi Kids Fest : Gallery
  • Manipur Rajkunja
  • Effective Legal Aid to Women Prisoner
  • How to avoid cracked heel during hot summer
  • Aid to artisan must to promote local product
  • Education for whom ?
  • Kabui Dance @Nongshaba Haraoba : Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 15 June : Govt of Manipur
  • 'Let's Talk About It' : music album
  • Significance of World Environment Day
  • The MCI Restoration
  • North East CSR Award 2022
  • Prolonged sitting or standing spoils your leg
  • State fast-tracking towards drug making hub
  • 'Progression' from smuggling to manufacturing
  • Bonny Elangbam : Longest distance covered
  • COVID-19 Status 14 June : Govt of Manipur
  • Interaction with Makakmayum Hosni Mubarak
  • India to become $5 trillion economy
  • Exploring traditional medicines of NE
  • Freefall of the kids after COVID-19
  • Honour the tax payers, expose defaulters
  • NE needs more than 'unprecedented'
  • Miss Shirui Lily 2022 #2 : Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 13 June : Govt of Manipur
  • Water management in paddy cultivation
  • PM Modi hails Nagaland Gaon Burahs
  • Blight of Nature :: Poem
  • Moreh as Las Vegas
  • NHIDCL's reputation at stake
  • Drugs, poppy & 'alternatives'
  • Thaopai Shithaine of Poumai #2 :: Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 12 June : Govt of Manipur
  • Jadonang Park, Tamenglong :: Gallery
  • Freedom movement against British #1
  • Multi-Tasking Staff at Leima Traders
  • Toning down rhetoric that hurts religion
  • Shirui Lily fest brings to fore plastic menace
  • Conservation of pony & grazing fields
  • Kakwa Lairembi Haraoba #2 :: Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 11 June : Govt of Manipur
  • The unheeded cry of children in labour
  • Why present distribution of urea fails?
  • World Day Against Child Labour 2022
  • Sunrise on the Civil Aviation Horizon
  • Arambam Samarendra Ningshingba :: Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 10 June : Govt of Manipur
  • NE Ex-Super Model at Delhi Kids Fest
  • What Diphu has, Dimapur & Kohima don't
  • Towards Manipur Budget 2022-23 ...
  • NE Social & Behaviour Change inaugurated
  • Fighting corruption remains an uphill task
  • Environment needs more than tree plantation
  • SN Chand: The father of Manipuri cinema #3
  • COVID-19 Status 09 June : Govt of Manipur
  • Degree Certificate for Survival #2
  • Value chain management of Umorok
  • Pulses for Nutrition Security in Manipur
  • Keeping your skin oil free during summer
  • Demand for impartial probe into IMC scam
  • Politics of isolating the NSCN (IM)
  • Raas @Manipur Rajbari, W Bengal :: Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 08 June : Govt of Manipur
  • A rare book on Birds of Manipur
  • Condemns bomb blast in Manipur
  • Market Innovations made America great #2
  • Jal Jeevan Mission : PHED Manipur
  • Disturbing data on lifestyle diseases in state
  • Tough talk against drug menace
  • Trekking to Shirui Peak, Ukhrul #2 :: Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 07 June : Govt of Manipur
  • Take a leaf from sunderban if you're serious
  • Testimony of brother Ninghor Mahongnao
  • Local leaders unitedly push for One Health
  • Letters from the Republic of Dust #2
  • Soil testing for better crop production
  • Despicable threat to school
  • Outrage at Little Flower School
  • Ibudhou Thangjing Lam Thokpa #3 :: Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 06 June : Govt of Manipur
  • India-Taiwan Global Bamboo Tech Forum
  • Condemns bomb attack at LFS
  • RSS chief sounds logical
  • Career options in Environmental Science
  • We reap what we sow
  • NRC in focus as keyboard warriors spar...
  • Coming together of COCOMI, UNC
  • HSE Result 2022 : Statistiscal Abstract
  • HSE Result 2022 : Subject Pass Percentage
  • HSE Result 2022 : District-Wise Pass %
  • HSE Result 2022 :Science Topper
  • HSE Result 2022 : Arts Topper
  • HSE Result 2022 : Commerce Topper
  • HSE Result 2022 : Science Stream Result
  • HSE Result 2022 : Arts Stream Result
  • HSE Result 2022 : Commerce Stream Result
  • COVID-19 Status 05 June : Govt of Manipur
  • Nagaland: Is it fair to blame Indrajit Gupta ?
  • 4th Plenary Session of WMC at Sugnu
  • World Environment Day at Tamenglong
  • World Environment Day at Lilong
  • World Environment Day at Haraorou
  • Musing :: Poem
  • Yet another World Environment Day observed
  • Mounting pressure for solution
  • Padmashree Award Moirangthem Muktamani
  • COVID-19 Status 04 June : Govt of Manipur
  • Congested road at Shirui Village :: Gallery
  • Degree Certificate for Survival #1
  • Admission for National Sports University
  • World Environment Day at Imphal
  • Include Meeteis in the ST list
  • Inhumane act of De-addiction centres
  • UK band Monuments @ShiRock #2 :: Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 03 June : Govt of Manipur
  • 'Provocation' charges arrests on social media
  • Gerinda Loitongbam: Natl Women Award
  • Timeless Memories :: Poem
  • Ket Meth releases music video Trauma'
  • 8 years of Modi Govt: More hits than misses
  • Bad example commanders
  • Posers parents may raise within
  • Miss Shirui Lily 2022 #1 : Gallery
  • Lunghar (Imp-Kohima / Jessami) #3 : Gallery
  • Wakhom Leikai Lairembi Haraoba #2 : Gallery
  • Naga Indigenous Wrestling :: Gallery
  • June Calendar for Year 2022 : Tools
  • UK band Monuments @ShiRock #1 :: Gallery
  • Ibudhou Thangjing Lam Thokpa #2 :: Gallery
  • SN Chand: The father of Manipuri cinema #2
  • Licypriya speech at East Timor :: Gallery
  • On 200th Anniversary of MK Binodini Devi
  • Featured Front Page Photo 2022 #2: Gallery
  • Harvesting Fest of Tarao #4 :: Gallery
  • Id-ul-Fitr @Hatta Golapati :: Gallery
  • Rules of English Pronunciation : Download
  • Sub-Syllables in English : Book Download