Dr Vijita Ningombam *


I know there are times when you become worried, fearful, hopeless, angry and sad but if you can accept it that it is just the inner truth of that moment and not the next you can let yourself heal.

Most times when you are worried, you asked yourself the question- why did only you have to go through it. You called yourself an idiot some times or you blamed yourself or someone else for your problems.

But the more you accept and acknowledge the problem without criticism or blame, the more you tell yourself that you are not the only one who goes through these problems, the more you can help yourself heal.

Soften or let go of those harsh expectations and unrealistic demands on yourself and others, forgive others and yourself for errors of the passed, stop worrying about the things you can not control and learn to focus on your own peacefulness.

Spend more time appreciating yourself, take more time to take care of yourself and stick up for yourself, stand up for what your heart feels is right and give yourself that powerful message: to feel well.

Motivation can be done in various ways... Motivated by fear, guilt or even resentment. But tell yourself that now is the time to be motivated and do things only out of love and celebration or a joy of self expression.

Appreciate your body, be conscious about it and fully inhabit it. The more and more you can see the beauty of your own being, you will be able to see the beauty of others and your surrounding.

What picture of yourself do you have in your mind?
That blueprint that you hold in your mind's eye should be only of your healthy self, a strong and vital you. The person who is confident and beautiful. Grow that sense of well being, feel your mind sharpening and your senses becoming more acute.

If you feel that you are not good enough for anything, if you feel that you are not confident enough, if you think your body is not perfect, if you feel that you are not beautiful.
Just wash it out of your mind. Dissolve it and take it out of your mind.

May be you could ask yourself what's perfect or beautiful? Ask your friend of who she/he thinks is perfect? Ask a person from another country to define what is perfect or someone from another continent, ask someone from another generation to point to someone who is perfect? Ask a mother of a child who has anencephaly if she has the perfect love when she sees her child?

There is no "one" definition of perfection. It is you who decides what is perfect.

Start appreciating yourself and your body, instruct your mind to appreciate it.
And start treating yourself with respect if you want others to treat you with respect as well.

Pamper your mind because it has gone through a lot. Thank your mind for the courage, strength and resourcefulness.
Salute it for the years of it's willingness to learn, change and grow from challenging circumstances.

Give it the strength to be strong because my dear reader,
You have many things to do, many gifts to give, many purposes to accomplish.
Let yourself heal because It's time to feel contented, rich and full.

* Dr Vijita Ningombam wrote this article for
The writer can be reached at drvijita(doT)n(at)gmail(doT)com
This article was posted on September 23, 2014.

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