An Open letter from a father to daughter

Papa *

My loving daughter,

Seeing their children grown up is indeed proud moment for every parent. The achievement you earn during you school days as a result of your hard work is a bonus. Because of you I am now a proud father and your mother canít wait telling your success story to her friends, family and relatives. We know other daughters had shown much more excellent performances then you. But we are not jealous of them we are very much satisfied to the hard work you have harness to make your parents smile.

As of now you have make us proud. My dearest daughter you might not know how much we care for you, how much we love you and you wouldnít believed that whatever me and your mother has been doing is for you and you little sister. As you have completed your higher secondary schools now you will be in college in the next couple of days.

And you have only 3 + 2 years left to reach your destiny. Being a typical father who hardly gets extra time to share with you besides my lack of proper understanding to the present education scenario, me and your mother have left everything to your own to decide on what your future will be. Some says that is the right thing that we did but I, as a father still have regret for not being a capable father like those father of your friends.

This write up should be in between you and me. My father had done once. That was the time when pens were used and letters were sent through postal service.

But the situation is no more same, these days you people are somewhat over 80% more advance then us. But imagine, it is only in this 20 plus some years that the world is changing too fast and you are in the most competitive era perhaps in the history of this world.

The next few days you will be in college. You will be meeting different types of people among whom you had never met. These are exciting times for you: finishing higher secondary school, going to college, moving out on your own, starting a career, paying your own way, dating, marriage, having kids. The possibilities are endless.

But, Iím not going to lie. At times, life is going to get rough. Itís inevitable; however, itís all in how you handle the stress of life that determines whether or not you will succeed. Having a negative attitude toward the stress and being pessimistic will not, I promise you, resolve anything. Taking deep breaths, keeping an optimistic attitude and developing a character that doesnít quit will take you much further in life than anyone tells you.

I remember those days when you were ready to come in this world. When every parents pray for male child, I pray the almighty to give me the most kind hearted daughter who have great respect for elders coupled with brilliant brain.

That moment of your birth was the day I realized that I wasnít alone in the universe. I had you.

Now as you are grown up, I can only hope you learn to find the good in yourself. People will disappoint you. Itís in their nature. Itís the ones who disappoint you, own up to it, apologize and never do it again that are worth keeping around. At the same time, be careful with whom you choose to associate and donít be so naÔve to believe that you can trust just anyone.

Love yourself and donít allow anyone to make you feel less of a person through their words or actions. You, and you alone, are in control of your emotions and well-being. By allowing someone else to taint your self-worth, you give them power over you.

You have potential for great things. Your love of children and kids with special needs is one of the things that make you amazing.

Youíre now officially an adult, but that definition goes far beyond just being a number, donít be hurry in becoming one, because being an adult means being responsible with all aspects of your life.

If someone gives you constructive criticism, donít assume theyíre being critical. Take it for what it is and smile. It may be the best advice you ever receive.

Even though we wonít be able to stay with you during your college days, a huge milestone in your life, you are surrounded by people who would each give their own lives to protect you and keep you safe. None of us want to see you fall, fail or get hurt. Your family is forever.

Follow your dreams. Never give up on something you desperately want. Ever.

Donít make the same mistakes me and your mother has made in life.

You are my first-born. You are love and all things good in my heart. When you hurt, I hurt. When you have joy, I have joy.

With lot of loves

* This is taken from an article published at Imphal Times
This article was posted on June 14, 2016.

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