TODAY -

She really can be trusted for fiscal prudence

Rajesh Mishra *



I was wedded to Maharshi Charvak's utalitarian philosophy of Yavat Jivet Sukham Jivet, Rinam Kritva Ghrtam Pivet, which when loosely translated would means, 'Eat, Drink and be Merry as long as you live even if it is on borrowed money'. Salary wasn't fat but wasn't meagre too as per the value of our currency then.

And with friendly bankers always happy to give me an overdraft up to a month's salary, I enjoyed those heady days of bachelorhood to the hilt without having any material possession in tune with the advices of all saints. However, all the fun and frolic came to a naught when I decided to shun my singledom to another bachelorette who was a friend once upon a time.

Once married, my overzealous relations and friends were quick in rendering their free-counselling to my better half regarding my wayward finances. And lo! Before the initial honeymooning bliss was over, I had surrendered my fiscal liberty. Loan became a strict no no. Bare essential contribution towards provident fund increased to ensure that not a dime from my sweat-earned money goes towards enriching the Govt coffers.

Usual binge made way for social drinking and smoking a strict taboo. I would barely get a sustenance allowance since an empty purse or no purse in the hip pocket would not be in tune with my respectable standing in society as also a cause of embarrassment to my other half since every Tom, Dick and even Harry knew that it is she who controls every dime.

And to top it all, every now and then, some or the other non-spiritual assets which I had hated thus far were added to household inventory. She would invite relations and friends every now and then arguably to demonstrate her achievements.

Needless to say her fiscal prudence would be admired unequivocally by all my well wishers in chorus like a political ally while my most genuine complaints of constantly dwindling allowances would be considered a usual whimper akin to an irresponsible opposition.

In all fairness, I too would grudgingly admire her financial management skills and often thought that the country would've been better off if the Finance portfolio was entrusted to a middle class housewife since independence. Notwithstanding the efficiency, loss of my budgetary autonomy always bugged me. I'd decided that I would turn a believer only when my fiscal-liberty was restored.

Honest prayers I think are always honoured by Almighty but when the intent isn't good, they "nay not be realised fully. And that is why my prayers were being answered at least partially. Through a member-get-member scheme, I acquired my credit card, courtesy a friend who seemed to be facing the same Crunch as I.

While a lot of our citizens have them how, in those days of initial introduction, such cards were rare and considered a" status symbol. I would often flaunt it but never use it. The very possession of the card raised my sagging morale a bit.

And then came the moment considered to be a milestone for a Govt or a Couple - our 10th Anniversary. Suddenly the realisation dawned on me as to what a lousy husband have I been. Never did I evince any interest in taking my spouse out for a dinner or bought a present. But the very next moment I thought she deserved it for depriving me of my liberty to spend. Suddenly I felt the credit card in my breast pocket and decided to surprise her.

I took my sweet heart for an outing telling our two brats to stay indoors. While window-shopping, she displayed a keen interest in a dress but withdrew on learning its price. I also knew the fact that she was so committed to the household that she never ever spent a dime even on her clothing leave aside jewellery. Suddenly I also discovered a pin-up in that . store, "All Credit Cards Accepted" and my spirits were high.

I told her to try the dress to which she replied in her usual tough tone, T don't have the money and even if I had, I'd never buy such an expensive gift because I can't afford it'.

"Please don't humiliate me in a shop, people are watching, just try the dress", I too retorted. She went to the trial room and I must admit 10 years of domestic pressure and managing the household along with the two brats hadn't diminished her charms. I made that circle using my thumb and index finger and winked at her in appreciation of what I saw. She blushed and smiled but the very next moment came out in her original attire handing over the dress to the sales girl.

I got the dress packed, using my card for the first time and came out of the store triumphantly. Rather than being pleased, "where the hell have you paid from", came the reaction from my woman since she controlled every leaf of the cheque book. And for the first time in a decade she started doubting my integrity. But when I said "Can't i present you a dress in ten years"?

"Oh my God, you have been saving those mere sustenance money that I sometime give you to buy a present for me.on our Anniversary"! she said. And she hugged me and indulged in a public display of love for the first time in a decade of our marital bliss and probably the only time as I look back now. I handed over the first ever anniversary gift and repeated those three words on hearing which she replied in ditto adding 'too' to it.

My bride suddenly became radiant. "Let's indulge a bit. I can treat you to a five-star ambience provided the bill is within my range" she said setting the upper limit. And before I could say 'Wow", we were in a continental restaurant of a five star hotel. I enjoyed my single malt; ordered a Bloody Mary for her and an array of dishes which would indeed be a glutton's delight.

I knew the bill would be much more than the upper limit she had fixed. Hence, when presented, I picked up the bill and like a gentleman wooing a damsel, never allowed her to see. I went to the counter and used my card again second time in a row the same day. Her suspicion which had appeared on payment of that gift but had vanished resurfaced about the source of the fund which I was so lavishly spending on her.

Hope this isn't ill-gotten money, she silently prayed. We returned home and found kids waiting for us and their constant inquiry from their mother as to how did the day go totally distracted her mind from all those nagging doubts about the funding of such an exhilarating anniversary.

Fortunately, the bankers sent the details when I'd left the station for another place on a new assignment. We spoke on telephone after a fortnight (Mobiles were far and few between). After initial pleasantry she came in her true colours while inquiring about credit card bill. I put my best performance and told her that this was the first time in a decade that I pampered her a bit.

In between I kept cursing my middle class existence and not doing enough for her. This really worked. I could see her quivering lips and tears rolling down. She calmed down in a while and started advising me in her sweet-as-ever melodious voice. "Please remember, these (Credit Cards) are tried and discarded system of the West.

Since there aren't any takers for them there, these condemned value system are being thrust upon us". I wasn't interested in countering her swadeshi logic for obvious reasons. "Remember darling", she resumed again, "I know you love me. Gifts are only symbolic gesture and needn't be expensive. Use your card as a facility and never for credit".

"Yes Ma'am" said I and hung up thanking her for making the payment. And yes she also admitted that she'was relieved too that the bills were paid by credit card and no dubious money was involved in celebration.

Is financial prudence on the anvil now that we have a lady Finance Minister? "We hope" and "we hope not" is how the opinion will be divided. Hope she takes a leaf from the economic shrewdness of a housewife. Insha Allah. Amen.


* Rajesh Mishra wrote this article for The Sangai Express
The writer is former PRO of PIB (Defence Wing) and posted at Imphal for three years and earlier at Jessami from 1985 to 1988
This article was posted on February 10, 2021.


* Comments posted by users in this discussion thread and other parts of this site are opinions of the individuals posting them (whose user ID is displayed alongside) and not the views of e-pao.net. We strongly recommend that users exercise responsibility, sensitivity and caution over language while writing your opinions which will be seen and read by other users. Please read a complete Guideline on using comments on this website.




LATEST IN E-PAO.NET
  • Intl Women's Day at Heibong Makhong
  • Give more teeth to War on Drugs campaign
  • Achieving an equal future for women
  • Relief @Kangpokpi & @Senapati: Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 07 Mar : Govt of Manipur
  • Annual Orphanage Visit 2021 at Pune
  • Women's Film Festival @ 3 Districts, Manipur
  • Decision :: Poem
  • Women empowerment through economic..
  • Women empowerment : Nation growth
  • ADCs: Election, not undue delay..
  • My memories of Imphal from 1941 #19
  • COVID-19 Status 06 Mar : Govt of Manipur
  • Gaidingmei, Mathanmi, Wungreikhan: eMing
  • COVID-19 : Impact in Manipur :: News Timeline
  • Budget session & beyond
  • Launch of Cancer OPD Services at Guwahati
  • Less lipstick, more eyeliner
  • Arts Exhibition @ MU #2: Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 05 Mar : Govt of Manipur
  • Women's Film Festival 2021 at MSFDS
  • Totem of natives of North East India #2
  • As I see the world in one page :: Poem
  • AMWJU Meeting Resolutions : 05 March 2021
  • Breaking down silos to look beyond exams
  • Mova Cave @ Hunpung, Ukhrul #1: Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 04 Mar : Govt of Manipur
  • PROMYS, a summer program in mathematics
  • Meeting of AMWJU : 05 March 2021
  • Dissecting Bird flu
  • Will Bengal vote for a poroborthon ?
  • Job @ Cobigent Technologies
  • Film : Is it a medium or an art form? #2
  • COVID-19 Status 03 Mar : Govt of Manipur
  • Emergency Meeting of AMWJU : 04 March
  • Golden Jubilee of Manipuri Cinema
  • Impact of Climate Change in Agriculture
  • Paradigm shift in role of public sector
  • The God Lainingthou Thangching Koylellai
  • COVID-19 Status 02 Mar : Govt of Manipur
  • When all goes wrong
  • Are we failing children in the HIV response?
  • Counter-cyclical fiscal policy
  • Where will ST demand stand in next election?
  • Ningtham Kummei: Dance Drama #1: Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 01 Mar : Govt of Manipur
  • Empowered teachers for local efficiency
  • First step towards regulation of social media
  • Of resignation dramas & disqualifications
  • Today's Manipur as reflected in media
  • Bongbal Kholen, Kpi District #1: Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 28 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • Totem of natives of North East India #1
  • 5 days with Bhaktisvarupa Damodara Swami
  • National Science Day 2021 at Lilong
  • Themes & objectives in National Science Day
  • More teeth to war against drugs
  • Mayang Imphal Keithel #2: Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 27 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • Manipur COVID Vaccination Report : 26 Feb
  • March Calendar for Year 2021 : Tools
  • Road from Imphal to Yangkhullen #2: Gallery
  • Best Panel Lawyer, Best DLSA in Manipur
  • Sustainable Agriculture: Key to Food Security
  • Film : Is it a medium or an art form? #1
  • COVID-19 Status 26 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • Buyer Seller Meet @ Hotel Imphal: Gallery
  • Job @ Makok Technologies, Keinou
  • Should Meetei belong to Minority or ST #2
  • Colour your hair, limit the damage
  • Medical camp at Lamlaba Village, Tamenglong
  • Japan Lan: Life In Kangla Sangomshang
  • COVID-19 Status 25 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • AMWJU Meeting : Resolutions [Feb 25]
  • Positions @ KIIT-Tech Business Incubator
  • 'Seeding Gampreneurs' transforming villages
  • Orchidarium at IBSD Shillong is reopened
  • Cracking down on 'errant' teachers
  • Chadong Village/Chadong Lake #1: Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 24 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • Folktales of Mao Maram & Poumai : Gallery
  • Guwahati Session : World Meetei Convention
  • HIV science has advanced but ...
  • I will rise :: Poem
  • Not the time to let the guards down
  • Journalism is not everybody's cup of tea
  • Foot bridges in Imphal #2 : Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 23 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • AIFF recognised Andro Girls Team : Gallery
  • Relief @ Songlung, Kangpokpi : Gallery
  • Lecture on medicinal plants at IBSD
  • Jobs @ Neopath Technologies, Imphal
  • Students on the protest path
  • Ignoring the core issues
  • My memories of Imphal from 1941 #18
  • COVID-19 Status 22 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • Implementation: Climate Change : Gallery
  • KAPU Meet: Tribute to Late Benny Khongsai
  • Career options in beauty industry
  • Meet on capacity building on energy efficiency
  • Need to establish cause of death
  • Don't break the bone
  • Shirui Lily Festival 2019 #2 : Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 21 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • Nakamh-Riangsuanneic - Folklore Film Fest
  • Should Meetei belong to Minority or ST #1
  • Aspergilloma of lung
  • From wetlands to dry lands
  • Ipudhou Pakhangba Puruksoubi #2 : Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 20 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • Sit-in-protest against bomb threat : Gallery
  • Young Generation and Modernization
  • The Mansion :: Poem
  • Netaji's DNA & INA Moirang
  • Demonstration demanding to cut Price Hike
  • 'Condemn hurling grenade at Governor'
  • Fulfilling the long cherish dream
  • Churachandpur Profile
  • Eyek Tamba :: Learn the Manipuri script
  • COVID-19 Status 19 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • Paoyi villagers with CM : Gallery
  • Predicament of Journalists & Media Houses
  • A day of stardom for Thoiba Singh at Seoul
  • Lay off hands on the media
  • Smiles of the Emas
  • Cherry Blossom at Mao #2 : Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 18 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • Basak: A dying art form
  • World War II, INA & Manipuri Literature #2
  • Meeting of AMWJU : Resolutions [Feb 18]
  • CM & Governor urged to cut down price hike
  • Union Minister for Social Justice meet CM
  • Seram Neken joins Congress party
  • Snowfall at Shirui, Ukhrul #2 : Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 17 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • Meitei-Pong Relations & Conquest of Khampat
  • Dying of Yongchak: declare National Disaster
  • Protection of tribal land in Manipur #2
  • Is policing pandemics different... ?
  • Home remedies for winter hair problems
  • Facets of human trafficking in Manipur
  • COVID-19 Status 16 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • Road from Imphal to Yangkhullen #1: Gallery
  • Understand prerequisits for ST tag
  • When all goes wrong
  • Centre Head @ JCRE School of Hospitality
  • Khamba Thoibi Jagoi #2 : Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 15 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • Re-Opening of Ima Keithel : Gallery
  • Emergency Meeting AMWJU: Resolutions
  • ICERME-2021: Intl Conference on SDG-7
  • Law in Motion : Basics of Law
  • Discussion on Koubru Chinggoirol #2
  • COVID-19 Status 14 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • COVID-19 Status 13 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • Lui-Ngai-Ni - Naga Seed Sowing Festival
  • Wung-Hao of Tangkhul & Chinese Counterpart
  • World War II, INA & Manipuri Literature #1
  • 3rd Jump Rope Championship : Result
  • My memories of Imphal from 1941 #17
  • Book: Manipur-Myanmar connections: Gallery
  • Mushroom training at Tentha Heibung
  • Workshop on GeoGebra at IISER Bhopal
  • Indian Women & Maths annual conference
  • Walking through final lap of my life :: Poem
  • Can BJP strategy win in Tamil Nadu ?
  • Granting minority status to Meitei
  • Snowfall at Shirui, Ukhrul #1 : Gallery
  • Shanti Thokchom's Life Experiences #44
  • Inspection at Kangla & Cheiraoching : Gallery
  • Protection of tribal land in Manipur #1
  • Oxford and Aatmanirbharta
  • Education in Mother Tongue will strengthen
  • Impressive shows from young MLAs
  • If it is for the people...
  • Ipudhou Pakhangba Puruksoubi #1 : Gallery
  • COVID-19 Status 11 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • Relief at Yangkhullen, Senapati: Gallery
  • Restored Wetland : Yaralpat
  • Appeal: WG to monitor crime against women
  • Distress Relief at Yangkhullen, Senapati
  • Sensitization on constitutional obligation
  • ST demand for the Meiteis
  • Democratisation of Education
  • Licypriya in 'Forbes 30 Under 30' List 2021
  • COVID-19 Status 10 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • Sushila, Indubala selected for Asian Judo
  • RIST Talk 48 : Microplastic is everywhere
  • Productivity revolution of farmers in Manipur
  • NEC Secretary meeting with CM Manipur
  • Valentine's Day beauty tips
  • College teachers on strike!
  • Are you fooling people of Manipur Mr FM
  • RK Jhalajit's contribution in historiography
  • COVID-19 Status 09 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • Keibul Lamjao: today in deplorable state
  • Nadda's hailing 'War On Drugs' Campaign
  • Sachi Gurumayum called on CM
  • She really can be trusted for fiscal prudence
  • Child Marriage: Stigma for a civilized society
  • Fate of hostellers
  • Ema Gi Wari by Imphal Talkies : Review
  • COVID-19 Status 08 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • Projects Inauguration - Tamenglong: Gallery
  • Budget: Perspective on Gender Budget
  • NPF meeting with NSCN (K-Niki)
  • Mushroom training program at Nagamapal
  • Solace me, chap ! :: Poem
  • Active cases below 3 figure mark
  • Mother Nature is still unhappy
  • Discussion on Koubru Chinggoirol #1
  • COVID-19 Status 07 Feb : Govt of Manipur
  • Packaged Organic Product launch : Gallery
  • Naga American announces Scholarship
  • Prize distribution for 9th MANIFA held
  • Range of options to prevent HIV is key
  • Paoyi village setting an example
  • Churachand Maharajgi Imung : Gallery
  • Churachand Maharajgi Imung published
  • Grab the given opportunities
  • A poet :: Poem
  • Supports farmers' movement call
  • Gaan-Ngai @ Iboyaima Shanglen #3 : Gallery
  • Financing burden of lifestyle diseases in NE
  • A budget that lays foundation for growth
  • Sports & Physical Fitness as career choice
  • Volunteers' Meet at Irong Bazar
  • Limping towards the New Normal
  • Is India prepared for Chinese aggression?
  • Re-openning of schools #2 : Gallery
  • Is Compulsive Shopping a Mental Disorder ?
  • Ex-Tempore Competition at Lilong
  • My hundred deaths :: Poem
  • Fragile - Handle with care !
  • My memories of Imphal from 1941 #16
  • The ring has finally arrived!
  • Study of growing traffic congestion in Imphal
  • World Wetlands Day 2021
  • Bringing Equality for Women in Armed Forces
  • Ima Keithels: Closed since March 21
  • Imoinu Erat Thouni @ Imphal #2 : Gallery
  • Understanding panic disorder
  • Life, It is ! :: Poem
  • A pinch of blessing with a tonne of a curse
  • COVID-19 combine to clobber MSME sector
  • Single digit spike of just 4 in last 24 hrs
  • Impact in India after coup in Myanmar
  • Remembering Kuki singer Benny Khongsai
  • Was Netaji really in Manipur ?
  • Environmental impacts of COVID-19 pandemic
  • Memo to CM concerning transportation
  • Gaan-Ngai @ Iboyaima Shanglen #2 : Gallery
  • Gaan-Ngai @ Iboyaima Shanglen #1 : Gallery
  • Naga Peace Process :: News Timeline
  • COVID-19 vaccination [Jan 16] #2 : Gallery
  • COVID-19 vaccination [Jan 16] #1 : Gallery
  • Downloadable Manipuri Calendar :: 2021
  • Featured Front Page Photo 2020 #6: Gallery
  • Sory Wahengbam - Actress Gallery :: eRang
  • 'Zehara' - Manipuri Movie :: eRang Classic
  • SPONSORED ADS